“Surrender to your mediocrity”

  “Surrender to your mediocrity…” Cheryl Strayed said. Her and Elizabeth Gilbert looked out at us.  I sat a few rows back, with my memoir writing wolf pack around me. This was the first time I was meeting my wolf pack in person. We had been sharing the most intimate details of our lives for the […]

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Under Water

So…it’s been a ride. The baby decided to poke a hole in its amniotic sac and my last few months have been under water. It’s been 2 months since I’ve written a post, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t been writing. Instead of working on the second draft of my memoir, I’ve been working on […]

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Christmas Traditions

When I was around 6 years old I saw this movie on TV- it was Christmas Eve and the whole family was wearing matching sweaters and gathered next to a big beautiful Christmas tree, drinking from little matching cups and singing Christmas carols. They smiled at each other with deep affection. I remember it looking […]

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Living in Motion.

I believe that I have discovered what my life theme is. I don’t know why I’ve been so obsessed with figuring this out. I think it’s because I feel like if I can determine what it is, I’ll understand what to do with it. “Your life theme is motion” A young woman in my writing […]

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20 Books All Girls Should Read Before They’re 25

By the time I was in my last year of high school, I hadn’t read one full novel from start to finish. I found my English class material drab and unrelatable. Besides, I could read the cliffsnotes or skim over the chapters and still have a conversation about the main plot points (and pass the comprehension test), so […]

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International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s Day! In celebration of Women everywhere, “Strength Becomes Her” launched today exclusively on Amazon and made available for Kindle readers and apps. I’m so honored to be a part of this book. To be included among such an incredible and talented group of women has been very inspiring. “Strength Becomes Her – Eight […]

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The Secret To Meatballs is Connection

I’m working on a piece for International Women’s Day (coming up March 8th). I’ve been asked to write a memoir essay on a woman who encouraged or inspired me growing up, who taught me patience and self-love and brought me into womanhood. I’ve chosen to write an essay about the time I visited my grandmother in […]

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Every once in a while you need to start your day with a good old cat video… This one also happens to include one of the loves of my life, my very own, Miche. He’s my 16 year old rescue cat. Happy Valentine’s Day 🙂  

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Finding My Footing

I’m in the middle of writing the book proposal for my memoir, and I’m feeling overwhelmed. Why does my story need to be told? Why will people care? I feel like I’m out in the water flapping around trying to figure out my footing. It reminds me of this time I was in Thailand. I had […]

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We’re All In This Together

A few weeks ago I was in the drivers seat two cars deep waiting at a busy red light in an upscale Beverly Hills intersection when I looked over and saw a man standing on the corner. He looked like he was in his fifties, smooth dark skin and good posture. He was holding a rectangle […]

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#SorryExhibit

The past few weeks putting this exhibit together has been an amazing experience. I was blown away at the response and the amount of people who participated in the anonymous apology submissions. Reading them all was thrilling, funny and at times, heartbreaking.  It was liberating and very scary to put my personal apologies out there, but many […]

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Starting with Sorry…

A Canadian born and bred, after living in the united states for years (and becoming an American Citizen) I missed being sorry. Yes, it’s true, we apologize for everything. I’m sorry even when I have no idea why. I’m sorry when I didn’t hear what you said, “Sorry?” I’m sorry when I’m coming out and […]

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Ruby Garnay, A Preface…

Hi, my name is Riva. The name ‘Ruby Garnay’ came to me in a dream one night. It reminds of a free-spirited European aristocrat, rebelliously bounding across a piazza and I just want to yell out to her, “GO Ruby Garnay, you got this!” She’s my inspiration. Maybe if I take some time to look […]

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